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Farewell Raghu – the gentle guardian of dahibara aloo dum

August 16, 2025

An era has ended in Cuttack. Raghu, the humble custodian of the city’s most beloved street food, has passed away. For nearly six decades, his dahibara aloo dum has not merely been food, but a ritual, a memory, and a binding thread across generations of dedicated fans who queued up eagerly for that leaf cone of baras soaked in tangy curd and topped with his fiery aloo dum.

Over the years, little ever changed. Evening after evening, Raghu would arrive punctually at his fixed spot – first near Barabati Stadium when I was in school, and later in Bidanasi – bringing with him a set quantity of dahibara and aloo dum in large aluminium dekchis, carefully balanced on a cycle rickshaw. The aloo dum always retained its warmth till the very last ladle, not because of insulation, but because it vanished so quickly into waiting hands.

This summer, I finally made a pilgrimage of sorts to his home. A young and enthusiastic guide, Chris, led me down a quiet, winding lane dotted with contemplative cows, to the kitchen where this legendary dish had been prepared day after day, year after year, with unwavering precision. One of his sons was tending to the simmering aloo dum over a crackling wood fire, while another was preparing the paraphernalia for the daily journey to Bidanasi. And there was Raghu himself- bare-chested, in a simple lungi, lying on the floor in gentle repose under the shade of the courtyard. A picture of humility, almost blending into the rhythm of his household, yet filling the space with an unmistakable aura.

The wood fire that gave his aloo dum its earthy warmth, the blackened kadhai that had witnessed countless afternoons of stirring, and the heap of red chillies drying in the sun -all of it transported me beyond the sweltering heat into a state of quiet ecstasy. It felt less like a visit to a kitchen and more like the culmination of a pilgrimage.

Raghu was never one for flamboyance. He let the food speak for him. And speak it did – in the satisfied sighs of teenagers, in the hurried steps of office-goers grabbing a plate before dusk, and in the nostalgia of old Cuttackias returning from afar who felt instantly at home with that first bite. His gentle words and quiet smile became as much a part of the experience as the dahibara aloo dum itself.

Now, Raghu has passed, and with him goes a part of Cuttack’s living heritage. Yet the flame of his legacy will not die. His sons, already carrying forward the craft with care, will ensure the queues remain, the flavours endure, and the tradition continues.

Raghu’s physical presence may no longer grace that lane or his spot in Bidanasi, but his spirit will linger – in the aroma of tangy curd, in the fiery bite of aloo dum, and in the collective memory of a city and its diaspora .

Raghu is gone. But every time someone who has been in his presence , bites into dahibara aloo dum anywhere in the world, Raghu’s quiet, humble aura will be there.

Remembering Raghu Bhaina | His Dahibara Legacy Stays Eternal

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How Zorba the Greek Derailed My Spiritual Ambitions

July 5, 2025

Once upon a time I was an indefatigable reader of books by spiritual masters and about spiritual masters.

From the austere wisdom of the Upanishads to the whispering clarity of Rumi; from the razor-sharp aphorisms of Zen monks to the ever-smiling Dalai Lama – I devoured them all. Tibetan lamas, Sufi mystics, Christian contemplatives, and, yes, even the occasional Hawaiian shaman or California – based crystal whisperer. If someone had even briefly glimpsed enlightenment, I wanted their reading list.

Like many ‘seekers’ (with mild existential anxiety) I was trying to decode the big questions:

What is the purpose of life?

Why are we here?

What happens after we die?

And also – should I eat carbs after 8 pm if I want to attain moksha?

I diligently underlined passages, lit incense, listened to chants and tried very hard not to judge people. I nodded gravely when someone used the word “non-dual.” I even attempted silence. (On day two, someone asked me what was wrong with my voice.). I also went through a ten days Vipssana course. It was uplifting and learnt to mediate.

But then… I met Zorba.

Or rather, I read Zorba the Greek. And something shifted.

Here was a man who didn’t quote scriptures, didn’t meditate at dawn, and certainly didn’t follow any “12 steps to transcendence.” Zorba danced. He loved. He failed. He laughed like the gods were listening – and couldn’t care less. He devoured life with both hands, spilt wine, and the occasional broken plate.

And suddenly, all those questions I had held so carefully began to wobble a little.

It wasn’t that Zorba answered the great spiritual questions. It’s that he made them seem slightly… beside the point.

Because what if the meaning of life is simply to live it? Fully. Messily. Gratefully. What if we’re not here to transcend the human experience, but to inhabit it?

Zorba didn’t seek detachment -he sought engagement. Not escape, but immersion. He was a walking contradiction: earthy and wise, wild and kind, reckless and clear-eyed.

After Zorba, I began reading the mystics a little differently. I still love their insights – but now I suspect many of them would’ve quite enjoyed a night out with Zorba too. Even the Buddha might’ve smiled at one of his jokes (before returning to his cushion, of course).

So here I am now – older, possibly wiser, and only occasionally smug about inner peace. I still listen to chants sometimes but soon shift to Jazz. I still flip through spiritual books out of habit. I meditate sometimes. But I also dance , badly, to Bollywood music. And when someone offers me a glass of wine, I don’t check if it’s organic or karma-free. I just raise a quiet toast to Zorba and then ask if there is any Mezcal in the house. If not Ouzo.

Because maybe the sacred isn’t always in silence.

Sometimes it’s in the laughter that bursts out when you stop trying so hard to be profound.

💬 “Life is trouble. Only death is not. To live… is to undo your belt and look for trouble.”

– Zorba the Greek

Beautiful Life

October 28, 2022

My mother’s father gifted me a football and two hockey sticks

When my parents celebrated my turning six

I held on to these possessions

Until the ball was shapeless and the sticks were outgrown

Such memories are more precious now

Than anything I have done or I may own

Along with my children and their spouses

Who are making homes out of their houses

I have friends who talk about the shapes of their dreams

Write sweet notes, sing soulfully or share piercing poems

Some of them are my wonderful nephews and nieces

With their unspoilt minds, healing hugs and flying kisses