Framing the Nude: On Lolita, art and the lines we draw

August 10, 2025

It is often not the subject that scandalises us, but the way it is framed. The same human body can be Venus in marble, or a poster on a backstreet wall; the same sentence can be poetry, or provocation. What changes is not the flesh or the word, but the gaze that shapes it.

While ruminating over the experience of viewing some paintings at the National Gallery of Modern Art in Mumbai recently remembers an incident from many years back. I was at university, chatting with a small group of friends in the library about books and I mentioned Nabokov’s Lolita. One friend, half-genuinely and half-provocatively, asked, “Why should that book be considered a classic and not pornography?”

I remember answering without hesitation: “In the same way that a painting or photograph of a nude may not be pornography.” I could not have unpacked the thought then, but I knew I was right. Several years later, after many books, exhibitions, experiences and conversations, I maybe able to explain what my younger self only intuited.

The difference, I realise now, is not in the subject but in the treatment. Pornography is concerned with arousal; art is concerned with awakening. One is engineered to provoke the body, the other to stir the mind, to open a space where reflection can enter. Nabokov’s novel, for all its disturbing subject, is not an invitation to desire but a dissection of it – an exploration of obsession, self-justification, and the lies we tell ourselves to survive our own moral landscapes.

Art history is filled with similar tensions. A Titian nude, an Amrita Sher-Gil study, even certain works by Picasso – each depicts the naked human form, yet none collapses into vulgarity. As John Berger noted in Ways of Seeing, the same image can be erotic, sacred, or exploitative depending on the frame that surrounds it – both literal and cultural.

Philosophy has circled this question for centuries. Kant, in The Critique of Judgment, distinguished the pleasure of beauty from the satisfaction of appetite: beauty is appreciated “without interest” – we savour it without the need to possess it. Freud, from another angle, might have called it sublimation – the transformation of primal instinct into something layered, symbolic, and socially resonant.

Lolita is unsettling because it makes us witness the coexistence of beauty and moral rot, side by side, within the same sentence. Its prose is a lattice of light and shadow, each page demanding that we hold both in view. That is the enduring power of great art: it does not flatter us with easy certainties, nor shield us from what is uncomfortable. It stays with us precisely because it refuses to let us look away.

In search of character

August 8, 2025

Lately, I’ve found myself watching people a little more closely – not in judgment, but in curiosity. And these observations have led me to think about a word that seems to have quietly slipped out of our vocabulary: character.

Once, it was a word spoken often, even with a certain reverence. Like nation building, character building was seen as a shared responsibility. We spoke of how parents shaped it in the home, how teachers reinforced it in classrooms, how books nourished it in silence, and how even a sports coach, with a whistle and a sharp eye, could carve it into a young person’s spirit.

Back then, character was discussed in the context of the community – of being part of something larger than oneself. Today, the conversation has shifted. We speak instead of skills – hard and soft – as if people are machines being fine-tuned for the market. The measures are employability, salary, and promotion. The community has receded from view; even the idea of society feels faint, like an old photograph fading in the sun.

The family still remains, but here too the language has changed. Loyalty is celebrated, but the other virtues – honesty, courage, fairness, responsibility – don’t seem to get the same light. Perhaps this is what happens when the market doesn’t just visit our lives, but takes up residence – shaping our conversations, colouring our priorities, and slowly rewriting what we value.

It’s no surprise, then, that conversations feel thinner now. They skim the surface – fashion trends, celebrity gossip, the rise and fall of sports stars, and politics that is less about ideas and more about the marketing of fear and hatred.

And so I wonder: where does one go for deeper waters?

Perhaps the answer lies in the quiet companionship of books – those patient, unhurried spaces where character still matters, where it is tested, broken, rebuilt, and, sometimes, redeemed.

Maybe, if we can bring back even a fraction of those old conversations – about what it means to be trustworthy, to stand for something, to be remembered for more than our skills – we might find that character was never truly lost. It was simply waiting for us to start looking for it again.

A Packet of Chips, a Sugary Drink – and a Looming Health Crisis

July 30, 2025

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The Magic of Travel Mornings

July 23, 2025

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A yellow mushroom speaks

July 23, 2025

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Read the leaves if you can’t read the lips 😊

July 22, 2025

When Trust Is Shaken

July 16, 2025

“There must have been moments even that afternoon when Daisy tumbled short of his dreams — not through her own fault, but because of the colossal vitality of his illusion.”

— F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

It may not always be about romantic love.

Sometimes it’s simply affection – slow, steady, real.

Shared laughter.

Late-night conversations.

A quiet ease in each other’s presence.

And with affection, comes trust –

Not declared, but gently growing.

You open up.

You care.

And then one day, something shifts.

A small lie.

An omission.

A silence that hides.

It’s not betrayal. Not quite heartbreak.

But it stings.

Because they mattered.

Because you let them in.

Because they had your trust.

Sometimes, an open argument over a hard truth

hurts less than a hidden one.

Because pain can be processed –

but silence and lies… they linger.

You try to carry on as before,

But the warmth has dimmed.

You pull back.

You still care – but now, from a polite distance.

So you give space – to them, and to yourself.

And eventually, you choose.

Maybe to forgive and move forward – but cautiously.

To remain open – but more discerning and distant .

All in All : It’s the Music in the Soul

July 12, 2025

Chasing happiness through exotic destinations or exclusive single malts may or may not be elusive. But for me, all it takes is a few bars of an old song from childhood or youth – and I’m smiling like a teenager who’s just been told his exam has been postponed.

I’ve seen technology evolve from valve radios to voice assistants who think they know my music taste. But no playlist algorithm has ever quite matched the emotional precision of the radio announcer on Vividh Bharati. One minute I’d be half-asleep on a Sunday afternoon, and the next – Lata, Kishore, Mukesh, Rafi, Hemant or Talat would start singing, and the rhythm of my breath would change. On Wednesday evenings ( or were they Tuesdays ?) it was Binaca Geet Mala on Radio Ceylon. Homework could wait.

Lush with violins, and the kind of romantic lyrics that may have felt too dramatic if they were not so achingly sincere. I may have been too young to fully grasp “Woh shaam kuch ajeeb thi”, but somehow, I felt it.

And then there was the phenomenon of The Ventures, spinning on my eldest uncle’s HMV vinyl player in my grand parents’ home in Cuttack – like rock ’n roll sports from faraway lands. Their twangy guitar transported me to an exotic world where life was cool and breezy – even if I was sweating in a banyan, hoping the ceiling fan would spin faster.

The real revolution came when we got our own vinyl record player. A used one, gifted to my father by a boyhood friend of his, who himself had received it as a gift from a relative who lived abroad. A proper machine with all parts intact – including a plastic dust cover. I was around sixteen, my siblings much younger. We had moved from Cuttack to a new town called Rourkela. I was making by new friends. Experiencing new feelings.

It was my mother and I who took the greatest delight in the unexpected bonanza . But purchasing vinyl records did not fit into her household budget. So we were only ever able to buy about half a dozen vinyls over time. But what magic they held !

Into the new machine, which I operated as if it was spacecraft, went the vinyl spells of ABBA and Boney M, alongside Mukesh and Lata Live at the Albert Hall. Of course, there was also the trusty little cassette player with a few prized tapes – including Jagjit Singh and Chitra Singh, whose ghazals floated over my bed like silken sighs.

Dancing Queen, Neena, Rivers of Babylon, Chiquitita, Ma Baker, Honey Honey – they seeped into my soul. My mother couldn’t relate to these foreign beats, but she indulged me in this regard, despite a somewhat strict household regimen in most other matters.

I even managed to get hold of the Saturday Night Fever album and tried to imitate Travolta’s moves – when no one was watching.

Before the responsibilities of a job and family took over my life completely I had the time to fall in love with others. Like the Beatles, Bob Dylan, Carpenters, Cliff Richards, Neil Diamond, Billy Joel, the Sinatras, Mehdi Hassan, Ghulam Ali, Subbulakshmi, Yesudas, Bhimsen Joshi, Kumar Gandharva, Kishori Amonkar , Farida Khanum, Eagles, Modern Talking, Simon & Garfunkel, Santana, Bob Marley, George Michael and many others.. And Jazz. And Vivaldi. And Pink Floyd of course !! Most have a back story ) including SPICMACAY and other evenings ) – some of which have faded from memory…

I was digressing…

My affair with the vinyl player lasted for about two years until we moved back from Rourkela to Cuttack – before I could dive into the musical world of Led Zeppelin or Uriah Heep in the company of a friends who was devoted to Radio Australia…

In the course of this meandering, I almost forgot to mention the legendary Akshaya Mohanty ( or Khoka Bhai) – the soul of popular Odia music for an entire generation. His mellifluous voice, laced with warmth and – and sometimes a gentle mischief, captured the imagination of young Odias everywhere. Whether it was love, longing, or laughter, he had a song for every mood – each one a story in itself. His music drifted through every bazaar and by-lane of Odisha, becoming part of the everyday soundtrack of life.

And then there is that singular, unforgettable gem – Hrudaya Re Ei Sunyata Ku – sung by Shekhar Ghosh. A one-off wonder, yes, but what a wonder it is. Every Odia with even a passing familiarity with sur and taal knows it by heart, not just as a song, but as a deep, haunting echo of solitude and yearning.

But let me not digress again…

Today, music streams, shuffles, syncs. But the songs that stir my spirits the most are the ones that remind me who I was. And every time I hear one of them – at a café, a wedding Sangeet, or by sheer YouTube accident – something in me lights up.

That’s the magic of music. It doesn’t just bring back memories – it brings back me.

I don’t know what was the ultimate fate of the old RCA vinyl player or the few vinyls we had ( or even that large Murphy radio ) but I have acquired a new turn table recently.

And now I hope to be able to listen and connect again.

With heaven.

Or with the subterranean..

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Mary Jane in Manhattan

July 10, 2025

I was walking in Manhattan in May,

Past yellow cabs honking near Broadway.

The air felt busy, the crowds were thick,

Then came a smell- strong, sweet, and quick.

It wasn’t a pretzel or pizza slice,

It smelled like someone was rolling spice.

Not cinnamon rolls or roasted seed-

Nope. Just good old-fashioned weed.

By Times Square lights and Central Park trees,

It floated along with the city breeze.

Outside a deli, near a bagel shop,

Someone lit up with a quiet pop.

No one cared, they just strolled on by,

Even the pigeons looked a bit high.

It’s legal now, so folks don’t hide,

They puff their clouds with urban pride.

So if you’re in Manhattan and sniff something strong,

Don’t worry- it’s weed. You won’t be wrong.

Just smile and breathe (or hold your nose tight),

It’s part of the city, both day and night. 🌆🌿

Scary but real : thoughts after watching A Beautiful Boy and Adolescence

July 9, 2025

Watching A Beautiful Boy is like witnessing a parent do everything possible – read, reason, plead, love – and still watch their child slip away into addiction. Not because they didn’t care, but because sometimes love, when not paired with limits, can become helpless.

The Netflix series Adolescence, featuring Jamie Miller, offers another window into this fragile stage of life. Jamie is not a bad kid. He’s thoughtful, confused, emotional – and like many teenagers, quietly overwhelmed. There’s no one moment of collapse. Just a slow drift, enabled by absent boundaries and unclear guidance.

Both stories are unsettling because they’re so familiar. These aren’t cautionary tales from troubled homes. These are stories that could belong to any family. And they highlight a hard truth: adolescence isn’t just a phase. It’s a vulnerable, high-risk time – and it needs adults who are not only loving, but also strong.

Because here’s the reality: teenagers need rules. They may argue against them, but they need them. Boundaries give them a sense of safety and structure. Adults often hesitate – fearing confrontation, or wanting to be seen as supportive. But when understanding turns into over -indulgence, or when guilt replaces discipline, the results can be damaging.

Respect for money, time, and discipline doesn’t come naturally. It must be taught. And it starts at home – with consistent boundaries, with the courage to say no, and with conversations about effort, responsibility, and consequences.

Yes, adolescents need to be heard. But they also need to be challenged – gently but firmly. Giving in to every emotional outburst, rescuing them from every discomfort, or handing out money and other resources without context teaches the wrong lessons. That actions don’t have consequences. That limits don’t exist.

What A Beautiful Boy and Adolescence make painfully clear is that presence alone is not enough. Adults must also be anchors – calm, firm, and sometimes unpopular. Young people watch more than they listen. They learn from what we tolerate. And in a world that pulls them in every direction, they look to adults for signals – of what’s acceptable, what’s valued, and what’s not.

So yes, be patient. Be calm. Be kind. Listen. Respect. Reason. Forgive. Encourage frankness. But also be clear. Set rules. Teach restraint. Insist on respect – for self, for others, for money, for effort.

Because adolescence isn’t imaginary. It’s messy, confusing, and very real.

But it’s also an opportunity – for growth, for resilience, and for adults to lead – not just with open hearts and patience but also with strong minds steady hands.